A couple of weeks ago I found out husband has been involved with ex-girlfriend. He says that he was only hanging out with her and that nothing sexual happened, but this was said after I caught him in lies. We went through a rough week where I told him to leave and then I later regreted it and asked him to come home to reconcile. He didn't want to come back home and wanted to stay separated so that he can get "space". I told him that I would move back home because I could not emotionally handle living in his hometown without any friends and family to support me through this difficult time. Husband has remained at home, saying he doesn't want me to leave. The last few days he has spent at home with me, saying he is trying to reconcile. However, I still have an uneasy feeling that something is still not quite right and it revolves around his cellular phone.<P>I know this may sound crazy. But when I have asked him about why he is so secretive and protective of his phone he says that its nothing, no women are calling him and the one he had calling he told to stop. So, since my trust for him has been betrayed, I asked him to allow me to listen to some of the messages on the phone, so that I can know for sure that he still doesn't have other women calling-he refused! and then he lied and said he deleted the messages. My thing is, how can we ever reconcile our marriage if he has other women waiting in the wings? It's like he is keeping a backup plan just in case things don't work out between us. For some reason I feel as if I don't demand him to be honest, that I will be setting myself up for more heartache and pain. I want a true reconciliation, not a half-hearted effort that ends in more hurt!<P>Am I approaching this wrong? Should I expect for him to reassure me even if it means listening to messages, asking him where he was and who he was with, etc.? Am I being to unreasonable?