I am dealing with a husband who constantly teases me. He thinks it it funny to pin me to the floor and tap on my sternum or pull on my toes till they pop, or bite me. He thinks it is funny, but I get mad because he is hurting me. It is one big cycle of teasing to fighting. I want to stop the cycle. I love that he like to have fun with me. I just wish it didn't hurt me when he did.

My husband used to do that kind of thing to me. I think first you should talk to him about it. If that doesn't work, do what I did. If he would purposely hurt me I would say straight out, "Stop, because you're hurting me." But only once. After that, I would hurt him back. (This is embarrassing, because it's not the way I usually act) As cruel as it sounds, I would grab him, well, you know where. I know it doesn't sound like the kind of thing a wife would do to a husband, but how else do you hurt a man that's bigger than you? For the record, I only had to do it twice. Now we can still rough house, but he listens when I tell him to stop.

Your husband is amusing himself by HURTING you. This is ABUSE. Real men don't treat their wives that way.<P>I don't know whether the technique recommended above is a good idea; it depends on his temperament. How likely is he to get mad and hurt you even worse?<P>If you can't persuade him to stop, you may have to enlist the aid of a man -- father, brother, police officer -- to explain it to him.<P>My brother used to bully me when my dad wasn't looking (he's younger than I, so my mom didn't see anything wrong with it). The first time my (then-future) husband saw him do it, he invited him outside for a talk. My brother declined the invitation, but never laid a hand on me again. He was a teen at the time, and has since grown up into a decent adult.<P>I'm guessing your husband is also young, and that you haven't been married long (I hope)? Please don't have children with this man until he learns to be gentle with smaller, weaker human beings.