Hi. I am new to this forum and am in need of some objective advice.<P>My husband and I have been together for a total of 8 years and are now in our 2nd year of a good marriage. My conflict revolves around the selection of our engagement rings 3 years aso. Prior to officially becoming engaged, he took me to several places to look at rings and I showed him what I liked. But when he went to buy the ring the salesperson talked him into a different style ring . <BR> <BR>Initially I didn't say anything but i did eventually speak up because this would be the most important piece of jewelry I would ever own; it should make me happy. But my husband has been resistant to making any changes because he believes that this ring though picked as a result of a salesperson's meddling was blessed in our wedding ceremony and should not be replaced.<P> This may seem frivilous to some people and I have tried to make myself get past it but cannot. I cannot look at the ring (which I stopped wearing) without having these feelings of intense anger. <P> Should I grin and live with someone else's mistake?? <BR>

I think you need to talk to him some more. Replacing or not replacing the ring should be a joint decision...it is a symbol of your marriage, and your coming together. Neither of you should run over the other's feelings on this, but use the POJA process--talk, brainstorm (for example...could a jeweler take the existing ring, blessed in your ceremony, and rework it into a new design?) and finally work together to make a decision you can both be comfortable with. What is important here is NOT what you do with the ring, but how you handle the discussions and the decision.<P>If you are not familiar with POJA, click here...<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5041_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5041_qa.html</A> <P><p>[This message has been edited by kam6318 (edited January 28, 2001).]

Hi,<BR>I have a simple idea , take the ring to a custom jeweler and have them recast the ring.<BR>They will use the org. diamonds for the new ring. Don't go to one of the mall jewerly stores or a chain store find some one local who will do this. People do this all the time. good luck