i've been treating my wife bad now she says she lost her love for me i've been cursing at her and treating her bad now i regret it is there anyway she can get her love back for me i can't lose her i'll do anything we have 1 daughter and i don't want to lose this family i'm going to get help i never hit her but i have a temper and my mouth does everything instead of my heart we are going to a counsler in a couple of days but i want to know if there is anything i can do before we go there because i want to start getting this family together right now i love her alot and never showed her but now i do we've been married 8 1/2 years and together for 12 years and i want many more to come.

While I am certainly nobody to be posting a reply at this point, I congratulate you for recognizing what you have been doing is wrong; Words can hurt just as much as the physical aspect, probably more so, because it is an emotional issue that can be pretty hard to erase once said and heard;<P>Give her time to get through her feelings, give her time to see if she can get past all the things you have said to her;<BR>However, I believe you are going to have to prove yourself; I think in this case you have to find out why you say the things you do to her- you need to speak with somebody about this, maybe you are really directing it at your own anger with yourself, and do not even realize it, these are things that you can find out if you speak to a professional, maybe some anger management would be necessary;<P>The problem is that we as women do not forget emotional issues as quickly as men, and perhaps she is waiting to see how sorry you are and if you sincerley wish to stop- but, once again, I really believe this is not something you can simply stop- only by finding out why you are doing what you do to her will you be able to make a permanent character change, one that may save your marriage.<P>Good luck to all of you, you have my prayers.<P>MAXI