Well here I am again, scared and lonely. My verbal abuse may have cost me my marriage. I am doing evreything I can to change me for me. I have had no contact with W for almost two months. It is so hard to give her space. I dont know where she is at, there are no papers or hint of that yet.<BR>All I know is that I am totally in love with her and I love her with all my heart. I am keeping up the finiacial end but it is killing me. Supporting literally two households. I miss the intimacy so very much. It seems that all I do is cry these days. Any one got any suggestions for me

Two households? How many children do you have? If there are no children, are you still legally required to support her entire household? Who do you use, or could you use, as a go-between?<P><BR>Letters are going to be seen as meaningless attempts at manipulation. Same thing with calls and gifts. I am glad you are supporting her. Might approach meeting her need for Financial Support. Can you keep her up to date on your counseling and AA progress? Do you two own a home together? <P>You have posted quite a bit, but without detail it is impossible to give helpful advice! What is she like? What are you like? What were your hopes and dreams together? Endless questions come to mind when you leave a void filled with nothing but verbal abuse and a PFA!

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Karenna:<BR><B>Two households? How many children do you have? If there are no children, are you still legally required to support her entire household? Who do you use, or could you use, as a go-between?<P><BR>Letters are going to be seen as meaningless attempts at manipulation. Same thing with calls and gifts. I am glad you are supporting her. Might approach meeting her need for Financial Support. Can you keep her up to date on your counseling and AA progress? Do you two own a home together? <P>You have posted quite a bit, but without detail it is impossible to give helpful advice! What is she like? What are you like? What were your hopes and dreams together? Endless questions come to mind when you leave a void filled with nothing but verbal abuse and a PFA! </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Heck let me see we were best friedns became friends before our first date. Our dreams were to grow old toghwer and raise her daughter. She owns the home but I have been paying half the mortgage, she is a wonderful woman my best friend and soul mate anything you want to know let me know I want help to save my marriage.

rs,<BR>you are on right track here. Sometimes you might want to try the EN board. A lot of good people hang out there.<P>Karenna is the best, You'd do well to follow her advise. It's worked for me.<P>Sounds like you are doing the work on yourself... great start.<BR>d2