My H and I have been going through the OW problem (for the 3rd time in our marriage). You ask, why am I still with him...well as far as I know I have no scriptural reason for a divorce. I have been going to counselling off and on through this past year for this problem before I knew it was OW. He's a workaholic and I thought when would he have the time?? More fool me. But anyway ,,, this past weekend I discovered he had left porno on the internet. I freaked out. He has since vowed that he has discontinued the relationship with OW and will never look at porno on the internet again! I went to my counsellor Mon., the day after all this had happened, and she told me to give him an ultimatum...either get psychiatric help or it's over.<BR>He also had been looking at pictures of other men's wives (porno) on a website also - this was discovered the same night as above. I wrote him an e-mail with the ultimatum in it...he threw it away without reading it. When I approached him in person, big mistake, he then chose to say I was a whacko and when I mentioned him going to sex aholics anonymous like the counsellor suggested ... he also thought I was whacko! He said he's not going to look at that stuff anymore!!?? but now there is the distance between us again. We have trouble having private moments because our house is so small and the oldest child is on the look out for what are we doing, since the conflict with the OW. He asked for a divorce at Christmas, no joke, but I thought it would be too hard on the children and his father absolutely forbid it. <BR>I don't know what to do. I feel like he's just going to do this all over to me and the kids in another few months/a year...who knows. He absolutely refuses to get ANY kind of help and doesn't think there is a thing wrong with him at all, he always finds a way to make everything my fault.<BR> <BR>I am so confused and lost sometimes I don't know what to do. I know God wants me and the kids to be happy but I don't have the guts to file for a divorce.<BR> If anyone has anything helpful to tell me please do, and above all please pray for us, I know there's nothing God can't fix. <BR>
