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<BR>Hello everyone! Please pray for me and my children.<P> God is the only one that I believe is going to be able to help in any way with my marriage/husband. <P> He told me a few nights ago that he had broken it off with the OW and tonight a message was on the machine regarding his business and how H let OW go pick out the cabinets for one of his business projects and insists on wondering why I should be upset that he is having so much contact with OW. I told him I've had it with the shame and humiliation of this and told him to either reconcile totally with me or go his own way...I'm not going to be pooped on anymore. He'll say that there is absolutely nothng for me to be so upset about and that I'm crazy for wanting him to commit to me and our marriage (we've been married 16 years!!!). Am I? How do I know if anything sexual has gone on with the OW or not? How can I believe a word that comes out of his mouth (he's lied about parts of this until I had proof...then he was caught).<P>Please pray for me and what steps I need to take. For the Lord to guide me through this very difficult part of life.<BR> <BR>We have 2 small children the older one knows what is going on and the little one has no clue. I know a divorce would hurt the little one right now, or I feel like it would, then again you never know with small children. I am in a quandry right now as to just how much more of this I can take...not knowing if my husband is still talking to...keeping communication lines all open to her and closed down to me....<P>Please pray for me.
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Hi V38,<P>I will pray for you, I am in the same boat since Feb. H told me last night he is not seeing or talking to OW anymore and he is at home and if I would just back off and give him time to think and if he says nothing then everything is ok and if he needs to talk he will let me know. I to have 2 kids and decided with that conversation last night that I am going to just let it go be myself and what happens happens. It is to much of an emotional drain and I have been letting myself loose to much contol over him and my kids are 8 and 12 and see and hear a lot that goes on so I am doing it for them too. After our talk last night I just feel no one is worth all that, I told him I love him he knows what he has here and it's up to him now. I am just so tired of fighting and begging for answers which when you think about it we are never going to get them unless they are willing,so be strong and do things to improve your life because remember those two little children need you. Be strong you are in my prayers!
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I will pray for you. It has got to be so hard what you are going threw and for your H to tell you your crazy for wanting him to commit to your marriage, if anyone is crazy it is him. You have been married to him for 16 years that is a long time and you are his wife. He should be grateful that you stood behind him this long and didn't leave when you found out what was going on. <BR>You are right God will be there for you and he will help you i believe that with all of my heart! When I have difficult times I always pray and ask for him to help me and guide me in the right direction. He loves you and your kids! so you do what is right for you and your children and if it comes down to you leaving, your kids will be just fine. It may be really hard at first but they will understand in time. <BR>I hope everything gets better for you and I will pray for you. Take care
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You and your children are in our prayers daily, I was in the same situation with the exception that it was my ex-wife who put me thru the headaches. We were married 14 years at the time, I also at the time had 2 children one was 6 and the other was 2, I found out that it only hurt the children more with us staying together, with all the bickering and her abusing me, I have never laid a hand on a woman and never will, but the children saw her hitting on me etc. All of this ended up hurting them more, Counselling did not help, she would not stop seeing the OM and told me that. Anyway's just want you to know that we are praying for you. (we is defined as my wife, children and myself)
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