Somebody please help me!! I dont know if I am the only one in this world that is going through what I am going. I love my husband, we have been toguether for 1 yr. My problem is that he loves to have sex every day. He could have sex 3 times a day if I wanted to, but I dont. I really dont like to have intercourse at all. I mean, I could be with him 2 times a weak but not every day and he would not understand that. Everytime that we are in bed he starts kissing me and talking sweet stuff to me but if I tell him that I tired and I want to go to sleep he will start getting really mad and will tell me to go and sleep somewhere else. He tells me that he is going to cheat on me if I dont do something about my problem. <P>I really dont know what to do. Sometimes I think that it will be best for him to leave and just get a divorce but I think that getting a divorce because of that reason is silly. I got to the point where I just tell him to find some other women and be with her but just to stop bothering me with that subject. He said that he will be really happy if I did it with him every day, but I am not like that. We just had a baby and I dont sleep that much because our baby wakes up all night. I dont know what to do. Can somebody please help me and give me some advise - - I really need it.<P>Tootsie

Hi Tootsie,<BR> For one thing divorce isn't the answer here. I would be real flattered if My husband would want me that many times, but it does sound a little excessive. It sounds like he has some insecurities that he can only fill by having sex that many times, the problem is he wants it with you, which isn't a problem at all,be flattered.Something tells me it's more than the sex thing with him, I would be willing to bet he is lacking the attention and affection,that he use to get before the baby came along.Talk to him and see if this might not be the real reason for wanting so much sex. Good Luck

I dont know if I am the only one in this world that is going through what I am going. <P>You are not the only one going through this....check out the stuff people have been telling me in the Emotional Needs page under sex, sex, sex...<P>My problem is that he loves to have sex every day. He could have sex 3 times a day if I wanted to, but I dont.<P>I used to be like that but I don't think I could handle that anymore...plus it just becomes and 'act' after a while.<BR>Has he always been like this?<P>I really dont like to have intercourse at all.<P>Why? I'll bet though it is because of his constant pestering isn't it. I understand, my W is just about fed up with mine and I have really been reading my replies to try and get the right mindset...it has helped too. If you page through the other sites, you will notice that A LOT of the things that seem to come up most often is the fact that men are hormonally challenged and that women are not.<P>Your husband does not sound normal and I have much the same problem he does. I don't yell and scream and my wife has never told me to find someone else..but we have the same deal going on.<P>Have you considered counseling? My W and I are in sessions now. They were for me for other things, but have progressed to both of us because we want to have a happy marriage.<P>How are the other parts of you relationship? The cooking, cleaning, work, home stuff? <P>You have a child now and divorce really is not the answer....really, trust me, I have 4 who live with their mom in another state and I have suffered and they ahve suffered...please don't go there.<P>If the child you have is an infant...does he understand that you have feedings and changings and such....hey, why not push his sorry but out at two in the morning for those things and see if he is up to intimacy later.<P>Back to my point, start paging through the other sites here and read the other people's stories...I know they have given me a lot of perspective...I know I am not alone and I can guarantee, you are not alone.<BR> <P>

Hi Tootsie, <BR>The only thing that I could tell you is to listen to FREDDYB. Do not get a divorce.<p>[This message has been edited by GIRLYGIRL (edited June 13, 2001).]