My wife and I have been married for 4 years now.I thought all in all we had a pretty good marriage until the other nite that is.I work in the oilfield and im on 24hr call so im gone from home alot leaving my wife at home to take care of our three kids.Here lately at work we have been really busy, Ive been putting about 110hrs a week in at the job.In our marriage i guess i keep alot of things inside me not wanting to open up in fear of conflict.The one thing i do complain about to her is the fact that she is always on the internet and her house keeping skills have declined since we became subscribers to the net.She complains that since we have been married she doesnt feel like her own person,she says she is either my wife or the kids mother.Ive tied to get her to either go to school or get a job so she is not always tied down to the house and the kids.<BR> The other nite i came in from work at about 3am and went to get in bed with her but she didnt want me there and informed me that she was going to stay with her parents the next day.She told me she needed some time to think about what she wants or even if she wants to be married to me at all.She called me the next day to inform me she was wanting a divorce. Ive tried everything I know of to make this Marriage work.Her and the kids are the only things i have in life that i truely care about.I went as far as to tell her i would quit my job if she thinks that may be the problem,but she doesnt think that is it.She told me she just didnt love me anymore and there was nothing i could do to get her to again.This all has got me really messed up i really dont know what to do or think anymore.My family is my life and i dont know howi can make it without them.<BR> If there is anyone out there that has any suggestions that could help my situation please send them to me they would be greatly appriciated.<BR> Thanks<P>------------------<BR>

Your wife is not so much unhappy as she is lonely. She spends all her time caring for others and putting their needs first, she misses you and you aren't seeing what she does do, just what she doesn't. She needs to feel appreciated and loved. She isn't just the babysitter and housekeeper, she is the woman you chose above all others, make her feel loved, appreciated and that you see her and she will be happy, so will you