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Dealing with Anger and Jealousy
#56811 06/14/01 01:48 PM
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How do you deal with anger? I yell at my husband constantly and I am always down grading him with words like stupid and idiot. Whats wrong with me and how do I break this cycle? <P>Also I have a problem with dealing with my husband talking about other women and how beautiful they are? My father cheated on my mother many times and now I feel as if my husband is trying to do the same thing even though he has never done anything. Can anyone give me some advice?
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#56812 06/14/01 03:08 PM
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Kayelynn,<P>I understand your frustration as regards anger and jealousy. It's something which is hard to control and contend with! I do believe though you need to make a conscoius effort to choose not to get angry. <P>For me however, my anger is as a result of my husbands infidelity. How I deal with it is I chhose not to insult him, or scream at him etc., Sometimes it dosen't work, but sometimes it does.<P>Maybe when he compliments other women why not you compliment other men!! Or perhaps you're not that inclined, maybe just tell him, you don't like that. My husband is in such denial that he apparently dosen't find any woman we know attractive.<P>Good Luck<P>Regards
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I do totally understand why you are angry, complimenting other women isn't the cleverest thing he could do. But that is his problem, if he wants to act that way, my concern is how you feel about it and how you deal with it. Try this, go into your bathroom and yell at yourself the way you yell at him, then while you are doing that look at how you look in the mirror, see your face the way he sees it when you behave this way, it isn't something you will like but do it and you will think twice about yelling at anyone again. <P>As for his complimenting other women, just ignore it, he'll grow out of it, it's the nature of the beast, besides if he was looking twice at men then you would have a problem.
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Thanks for the advice! I had my first counseling session yesterday and I am suppose to take a notebook and write all this information down. So far I have wrote over four pages of stuff. It released some of the stress and anger I had built up. It's been only one day, but I haven't yelled or said anything harsh--baby step I guess, but its a step [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] I have set a goal for an entire week of no yelling and no angry words--keep your fingers crossed and have the prayers ready [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Thanks,<BR>Kaye

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