My fiance and I were taking a nap yesterday evening after we both got home from work. She was wearing a pair of my boxers which are the kind with an open slit in the front and she was also wearing a small tight night shirt without a bra which looks very very sexy on her and it leaves nothing to the imagination! She is built very nice, tan, long sexy legs, 36C chest, small waist, dirty blonde hair, and very attractive. I was wearing boxers also which I always do now per her suggestion. I got up and put some shorts on and a polo shirt, then proceeded to start making dinner for us.<P>After a while, she woke up, comes out and goes outside with our dog. She is still in her sleepwear. She sees the neighbor's dogs are playing in our yard which they are normally pinned up. She walks the dogs back to their yard to their cage. I'm outside cooking on the grill while this is going on. The neighbor's dog cage is behind a set of large bushes and trees so it is hard to see the cage and the neighbors house from our house.<BR>I hear her and another man talking. After I finish cooking dinner, I call out that dinner is ready and she hollers back and says ok. I wait several minutes but she still hasn't come back to the house yet. I start to get angry because she is over there in her sleepwear and she hasn't come back yet, so I walk over to the neighbor's house to the backyard where the dog cage is and where I thought she would be. She is standing there 10ft from the back porch of the neighbor's house talking to the man of the house. He is standing on the porch and she is in his yard with her sleepwear still on, again open-slit boxers and tight night shirt - no bra, leaving nothing to the imagine. She then turns and starts heading back to meet me and we both walk back to our house.<P>I'm beside myself at this point. I was very angry at her for going over there in those clothes and talking with him while dressed like that. She knows that I get uncomfortable with her exposing herself and being revealing. I felt very hurt that she didn't think to put more on before going over there. I don't mind her talking to our neighbors - I think we both should get to know one another. Neither one of us have actually met, she didn't bother to introduce me to him at that point either which introducing me to anyone she meets is something that she rarely does (another peeve of mine). <P>My biggest issue with this is: Am I over-reacting to her going over there in her sleepwear half-naked exposing herself to him? Should I be comfortable with her doing this? Am I just being over-possesive and jealous? I'm wondering how she would feel if I had gone over there, without her, in my boxers and no shirt on and talked for several minutes with the neighbor's wife? Do I trust her? I do trust her but why does my neighbor's husband have to see my fiance half-naked?<P>I would like a female's opinion and a man's opinion. We have been living together for about 6 months and have been dating each other now for about 8 months. We recently got engaged and are thinking about Jan/Feb to get married but haven't set a date. I'm wondering if I still love her and if she is the right person for me. I'm more of a conservative, cautious, shy person and she is confident, assertive, free-spirited, very socialable, very likeable, outgoing, type-A personality.<P>I'm also seeing a licensed therapist on a regular basis to get a handle on my possesiveness, jealousy, and untrusting nature. I'm trying to understand why I'm this way and learn how to modify my behaviour. <P>Did I over-react or should she have put more clothes on?<P>Thanks in advance!

Hmmm... All of these are good questions. I can see your side. I mean your neighbor got a nice look at what should be all yours. However if you trust HER that is all that matters... If she is a very attractive girl you should pride yourself in the fact that not only is she a hottie but she is your hottie. Next time she goes to run out like that say hey hun can ya stick some sweats on? Dont be a jerk about it just ask.<BR>Hope some of this was helpful

I agree with Wifeof... <P>Also you should glad that she doen't have alot of hang-ups about her appearance. I don't see a problem with the situation, it wasn't like she knew he would be out on his porch. Now if she starts flashing in public, I think your concerns are warranted otherwise relax a little. <P>

I agree with you and think that it was inappropriate.<BR>She sounds like she is an exhibitionist in nature. The problem is that many men would see this as a come on to them and would encourage them to pursue her. I would feel very uncomfortable with it. A bigger problem is your description of your different personality types. I think in the future that would be a hugh problem if she is extremely outgoing and you are a conservative in nature. Many successful marriages according to textbooks are based on common interests and shared personality traits. Opposites may attract but they are usually not good in the long term.<BR>By the way having a girlfriend never introducing you to people she is talking to is simply very rude and would be a big pet peeve of mine also. She does not seem compatible to you in many ways. I guarantee you that these differences will increase your uneasiness in the future. Good luck.

Thanks for the input everyone. I spoke with her today over the phone from work. She was still a bit pissed about my reaction and scolding her about going over there half-dressed. I was so steaming about it last night, I thought I had better leave for a while, cool down and come back. I couldn't finish my dinner with her sitting across from me so I emptied my plate and went fishing. I like to fish to clear things out in my mind. I did cool down quite a bit and tried to reason things out in my head. I came home last night after fishing around 10om and she was asleep. She had a very early dentist appt and hates going to the dentist.<P>Anyway...she sarcastically commented to me on the phone today if I was going fishing again tonight. I said no. I asked her if she would be wearing boxers and a tight night shirt over to talk with the neighbors husband again and she said sarcastically yes I might and maybe next time I will wear no underwear and probably just a bra. I hope she is just joking but with her personality, I wouldn't put it past her.<P>I do have a question about another thing concerning her dressing habits. She NEVER wears panties! Is this normal? She says that a lot of women don't wear them - that they are just uncomfortable and always bunch up, plus they leave panty lines. Am I the only one who would feel uncomfortable with her wearing no panties under a short dress with no hose, or shorts, or a skirt with no hose, etc? My first time with someone never wearing panties so maybe it's just all me!?!?<P>Please help! And thanks again for the input from before - I will relax a little on it unless it happens again and I will politley ask her to put some shorts on or sweats on if she goes over there. What about the braless revealing tight night shirt which leaves nothing to the imagination from the belly button to the neck? Don't worry about? Or ask her to dawn a t-shirt on?<P>Thanks<P>