Thanks guys.<P>Yes he's doing all the right things, but little subtle changes are driving me crazy.<BR>Maybe I'm making too much of them?<P>I mean he he gets really defensive lately....For example:<P>He usually leaves work around 5PM sometimes he'll get stuck with a customer or his boss until maybe quarter or twent past, no big deal......Heck, I stay late too. But we usually try to call if we are gonna be late. Last week I got home around 5:20, he wasn't home yet, but really didn't expect him until 5:40 or so (as normal), My son was at a friends house but was expected to call me at work between 4:30 and 5 and hadn't...so first order of business was to get a hold of him (he's 13)....I called the friends house and found he went to another friends house (so I was a little perturbed he didn't call me and tell me where he was going) called the second friends house and found yep, he was there but outside riding bikes, left message for him to call me when they came inside. Now it's 5:45 or so. Can't reach my H, by cell phone and office phone just rings off the hook. At 6PM my H calls me on the cell phone, just left work, I said "I'd appreciate a quick phone call if you're gonna be this late." He says very angrily "I tried you at work at 4:45 and got your voice mail" I said (which was true be cause I checked for a message from my son) "Well, you didn't leave a message" He said "I hung up!" I said "ok.....but please next time If you take the time to call, at least leave a message." He said something nasty and hung up! For the record I didn't leave my desk until about 10 of or 5 of 5---so If he did call I would have answered. Anyway he walks trough the door at 6:15 and I'm on the phone with my son, who also tells me he called my office phone and got voice mail and hung up! I make plans to pick him up at the second friends house. and hang up. My H decides to come with me, because he is angry at son for goind off without telling anyone, and when I tell him that he tried to call but got voicemail and hung up, he says..he should have left a message he knows that you check there.......And I gave him a look. (probably not a nice look) and he just goes off on me.........WHAT DO YOU THINK I WAS DOING?????WHERE DO YOU THINK I WAS?????? ETC.....I just kept quiet, and whenhe ran out of steam I said "I would just appreciate a call if you're gonna be late....I'm not saying anything further." He kept it up, and I finally said, "listen I'm not saying you were anywhere, or doing anything, do you have a guilty conscience or what?" by this time we are at the friends house, my son get's in the car, and the discussion ended.......and although it was a week ago, hasn't been brought back up.<P>In the last two weeks other incidents have occured, but they are all along the same lines. And I've noted that he avoids time alone with me. If both the kids are out, he get into a project around the house. <P>Like I said, maybe it's in my head.....but here I go again, wondering<P>Sorry this post is so long......
