New to this forum, have been in recovery for a while dealing with infidelity.<P>Does anyone have any idea where to get answers about money conflicts in a marriage?? Infidelity didn't get us but I am afraid money will. Is this the right forum to seek opinions or somewhere else do I need to go.<P>Husband is bipolar and doesn't do well with money. Makes good money though but wants to hold on to it instead of paying bills. We are getting behind and don't know where to turn. I feel like we are sinking and I don't want us to have a set back now after all our recovery.<P>Can anyone help????

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Kaymac<BR>I am new to this post also, and like you have other big issues in the marriage, but money is the one that seems most insurmountable to me. I let it go for 15 years that we could not agree on our finances. I read the article recommended by the 2nd post, but it does not really address my question. My husband and I have always had a joint account, and I wish more than anything that we could have agreed years ago to have separate accounts. Last year we ended up filing for bankruptcy with over $60,000 in back taxes and consumer credit. We don't have savings or a home or any kind of assets -- though we have both been professionaly employed the whole marriage. This is a daily issue and a whole life issue. I, too, am looking for concrete help on how to create an agreed upon spending plan when you are in a marriage where trust is weak and it is difficult not to lapse back into accusations and fights. Hoping for some guidance . . . .