Jesus walked the earth and laid down his life for us...why can't spouses (us and others) just lay down our pride and ego and stive to be good people..I have discovered that when my pride and emmotionalism are gone, I am able to make decisions almost exclusively out of love and that when I am not that those decisions come out of my id/ego..Why can't we not let issues spill over from day to day, why can't we live in peace with the ones we love most..why?