Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
#57190 08/23/01 02:14 PM
Joined: Aug 2001
Posts: 2
P
Junior Member
Junior Member
P Offline
Joined: Aug 2001
Posts: 2
My husband and I are currently separated and I have filed for divorce. We were just married in April 2000. In May of this year, he had an affair. After that, we tried to make it work but it didn't. We are both crushed at our marriage failing and keep trying to make it work out. The biggest problem between us was the verbal abuse and the fact that my husband continues to justify it by saying he was stressed, that there were certain factors involved, etc. How do we get to a point where he understands that there never is an excuse to belittle, yell at, or whatever at his wife? He was also very disrespectful to my 10-yr old son (from another marriage). He has admitted now that how he handled things were bad but still insists that I contributed. The only way I can see that I contributed was that I resisted being bossed around and was intolerant of his behavior. I know he's experiencing a great deal of shock over our marriage failing - just like I am - and the consequeces of his behavior. This is a pattern in his life and I think he's finally waking up to some degree. Still, where do we turn right now to return to the love we once had? He is unemployed at the moment (although he is well-educated and this has never been an issue before) and we can't afford counseling at this time. We did go to counseling before and he turned out to be a very bad choice.

Joined: Apr 2000
Posts: 1,168
L
Member
Member
L Offline
Joined: Apr 2000
Posts: 1,168
If you're suffering from verbal abuse, the only way for it to stop and still stay together is for him to acknowledge it and change his behavior. Get Patricia Evans' books on verbal abuse.


Moderated by  Fordude 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
0 members (), 501 guests, and 74 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
IO Games, IronMaverick, Gregory Robinson, Limkao, Emily01
72,037 Registered Users
Latest Posts
Three Times A Charm
by Vallation - 07/24/25 11:54 PM
How important is it to get the whole story?
by still seeking - 07/24/25 01:29 AM
Annulment reconsideration help
by abrrba - 07/21/25 03:05 PM
Help: I Don't Like Being Around My Wife
by abrrba - 07/21/25 03:01 PM
Following Ex-Wifes Nursing Schedule?
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:21 AM
My wife wants a separation
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:20 AM
Forum Statistics
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,524
Members72,038
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Copyright © 2025, Marriage Builders, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 8.0.0