After an 18 month separation, my husband wants to reconcile, said he will end his affair. During our separation, he got an excellent job and has relocated. He also bought a house. So he wants my kids (son, 18, just started college and living at home, and daughter, 15, sophomore in h.s.) and me to move there. (My husband is their step-father.)<P>My kids have always lived in this suburb, they're happy here. S would have to stay with friends and finish this semsester, says he is okay with that. D doesn't want to move, but acknowledges that it is not her decision.<P>I want to save my marriage, but should I risk my children's stability and happiness to do so?<P>mm<p>[This message has been edited by minniemouse (edited September 04, 2001).]

Hi. I don't usually post here, but D/D is slow today. <P>I would say that the answer to your question is YES, as far as the kids go, because kids are adaptable and will absorb the change much quicker than you think. My kids are younger than yours, but we have moved quite a bit, and they are always the first to get used to it.<P>HOWEVER, only do it if you know that you and your h have worked out some plans to assist you in your reconciliation. I don't know what the problems were, but have you had counseling? Are you both working on a POJA? Has the reason for the separation been forgiven/resolved? And most importantly, DO NOT go unless he has ENDED the a. He says he's going to. How will you know he has? Perhaps get him to write OW a no contact letter, and post it in your presence and stipulate to him exactly what you want from him. Just because he wants to get back together is no reason to just jump back into his arms. All things must be resolved first.<BR>