My H and I have been married 15 yrs and have 3 kids from teen down to toddler. We had our firstborn right away into our marriage and H was at the beginning of a long climb up the career ladder that involved relocating 5 times over the years. He works in sales for a big company and up until recently he travelled almost every wk for his job. Over the years we have gotten into the habit of just discussing the kids, house, projects, his work, all topics that dont upset either of us. The DEEP issues we cant seem to get started on with each other. I became more and more depressed over the years and H became more and more into his career. Eventually this led to his recent emotional and physical affair with a single coworker that he nearly divorced me over a few months ago.He said to me in counseling that OW could really bring out his feelings. Now we are in marriage counseling and our counselor is trying to get us to OPEN UP to each other. I realize now that neither of us know how to. And we are afraid to get into the hurtful things.Some subjects such as inlaws and money we stay away from entirely due to pain from fighting about these over the past 15 yrs. Can anyone give us any advice? Thank you in advance. lifeismessy

I dont know I am the best for advice, i have my own problems, buy you need to talk. There is a reason , underlying why your husband cheated, he needs/wants emotional support. You cant avoid fighting, its a part of life, i know that i hate fighting to. You both need to talk about emotional things, and all of life stuff. Try praying,r eading books, anything!<BR>sweeteeyore