HI I have been a part of this site since Feb. I have been in recovery since the end of June. Things have been going well, me trusting my husband again is a daily effort. I am reading books on rebuilding. But often find myself wondering if I am being told the truth by husband. When he is home things are great talking not being nasty to each other, when he goes to work my stomach sinks OW works and lives five minuets from where he works. He tells me he has had no contact since the end of June. One issue I have however is he still never brings his beeper in the house and when I bring it up he tells me I am being silly making an issue about it. He still has the same beeper number she used to beep him on, he wants what happend to be a thing of the past and not bring it up anymore. I love him very much and just want to know should I drop it? By the way if you never read my posts affair was emotional H & OW fell very hard for each other and H lied to me when I found out about no contact with her a few times I got fed up walked out on him and he then came clean with everything and broke off relationship with OW, who took it very badly. What should I do trust what he says that he has not had any contact since the end of June or do something about the beeper. I am still very jelous when I think of all the things my H told me abot there relationship.

Well, I think you should take it as a warning sign...my H suddenly stopped leaving his cell around again...A#2...confirmed after he left.<P>If there isn't anything going on, he should be able to bring that thing into the house RIGHT NOW...and feel safe. Tell him, "yes I know you think I am being silly, but it would make me feel a lot better if you would go and get it right now, and just let it sit there, turned on." If he isn't willing to do this, well you know the answer.<P>My H brushed off my comments about his cell phone, too .<P>Take care.

Newsflash!<P>We are so intuitive, yet so doughtful of our intuition. It is obvious he is not bringing in his beeper because she may use it. <P>Go get the beeper. Bring it in the house. Put it in your pocket. If it goes off, read it. If it is a code or her number, well, you will know. If it doesn't go off, lucky for him. <P>How much do you want to bet that it will eventually go off with some sort of code number. For the OW it was 4540. (Her address when she was at home.) 1884 (her address when she was at work.) <P>Before I learned of the affair, I just thought how weird it was that he would get a page like that. He told me he thought it was weird too. But that every once in a while it would happen. Huh, How funny! I remember saying those exact words to him. Never thought another thing about it until after D day. Now, if things are not exactly where they need to be, RED FLAG! <P>The worst part is RED FLAG is 99% always right. <P>God I wish sometimes I could turn off my intuition. But it is there to protect us. Use it!<P>Jenni