Hi, I'm new here and posted elsewhere, I'm sorry. Ok, here goes. My wife and I have been together for almost 15 years now. We honestly have been thru every type of problem that usually ruins couples. Intamacy, financial, emotional, unemployment. We have always managed to work thru our problems. A little over 3 years ago, we bought our first home. We have never fought until we moved in here. This house has a little bit of a history such as the last couple divorcing, the back of baseboards saying "THIS HOUSE IS HELL", that sort of thing. January of this year my wife and i were talking and i asked her if she wanted out of our marriage. She said she wasn't sure. I said i didn't. She started to cry because she thought i did. She phoned me a short time later and said she has never wanted out, she was angry and scared. We have talked and worked since then. Things have gotten much better, but then somebody will say something or something happens and everything happens again. We go back to the start. Case in point. Two weeks ago we were talking about having another baby. My wife was going off the pill. Then she spoke to her friend who she hasn't spoken to in a long time, and was back to hating me and thinking she wanted a trial seperation. This happens everytime. <BR>She has spoken to people off and on for a while. Of course, none of them like me. They all tell her to leave me. Their idea is that although we have 2 beautiful children, she should think of herself. Hurting me or the kids should not be a factor in her decision. She has then told her sister and other friends, including me, that things are much better and she is happier. I'm not saying it's all over or anything, i know it will always require work.<BR>When it comes to sex, there is still an emotional bond. She is trying to avoid having sex with me due to that reason. I've explained that if there is emotion, then that is a very good thing. <BR>These problems most come from my end and i accept that. I was not there emotionally, physically or sexually for her, but i never knew. My wife wants to sail thru life, and i've asked her to climb aboard my sailboat for the most fanastic voyage she will see. She opens up, then seems to hide again. I know she has a lot of resentment and anger towards me, but how can i get her to get over that? If she did, i know things would be different.<BR>By the way, when we do fight or talk right now, we can make up in an instant. And then things are always better until the next time something is said or done. This is what i mean by her trying, but then shying away. We have been told by friends that they see a love in us that few others will ever feel. We have felt that before, and i want her to see it agian. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
