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Wishing he'd ask for forgiveness
#57424 11/13/01 07:15 PM
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Any comments that can help sort my confusion would be appreciated. My husband has a history of masturbating to porn and feels no need to stop or to apologize to me. He says it does not concern me. I cannot bring up anything close to the topic without shutting him out. He hides it from me now, but I know he still does it. What should I do and how can I cope? Another part of the problem- he doesn't understand what love is, so his "love for me" cannot be a solution.
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I have recently found out that my hsuband has been doing the same thing behind my back. I found a few magazines and tapes. I am not sure what your situation is but I know that my husband does it because I have no desire to have sex anymore. I think that it is because of my depression. Do you think that he does it to hurt you? I was very angry at first but after I thought about it I said to myself that it was better that than him being out with another women.
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jennirenee,<p>can I ask, and I'm not being a wiseguy, what is wrong with it? If it is taking the place of your sex life, then I can see a problem. But if you still enjoy a healthy libido, I think it's okay at reasonable levels.<p>My H will sometimes do this for relaxation when I'm not home. And sometimes, it's nice to get a little physical release without all the 'work' of lovemaking. To me, sex is a natural need like food, water, air... <p>Now if he is obsessed with it and/or needs the porn to be aroused, he needs some counseling, imo. But if not, then you might ask yourself why it bothers you. I know it bothers me because H is aroused by attractive, young women and I know that I don't measure up--but that's about Me, not him.<p>Hope this helps.

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