Today I was sitting watching country music videos on tv and every other one was about being left by the person they loved and the pain they were going through. I guess I had never relized that before now. I never really listened to the meanings of the songs. It made me stop and think about how this situation has changed my whole way of thinking, listening ect. Maybe in some ways that is a good thing. Maybe after this I will be more open to other peoples hurt in their lives.<BR> My H was here yesterday and picked up some furniture. It was one of the hardest days of my life. I was just nuts. I couldn't quit crying wich made him mad. He kept saying this may not be permanent. If he doesn't feel like this will be permanent then why is he doing this. I told him that if he were just moving out on his own no, OW I could deal with that. Instead he is moving OUR things into a house that SHE is living in. That's what bothers me. He told me to grow up. Well I'm done with him at least for awhile. I don't want to see him, I'm just plain sick of him. He only took a few things but it's the principle. I didn't work my butt off the past 15 yrs for that lazy,cheating,stupid,ugly b***h to use my things. Sorry for the hostility but that felt good. <BR>

Don't listen to country music, it is the worse! Rush right out and get Cher's new CD...."Believe" it is that inspiration we need.

OH Boy! Crazy or What... I think we were watching the same chanel! I personally like the song "Somebody's gonna give you a lesson" HeHeHe. And "My little Goodbye". <P>MySharona... I have been looking for that CD here... our music store hasn't had them in for a while. I'm going into the city today & I'm gonna get it! <P>I know this may sound a little twisted.... but when I'm feeling like I need a kick in the butt.... I listen to Metalica - The Black Album. I have always been a "country girl" at heart music wise.... but I dated a headbanger in college, and he got me hooked on that record! <P>Butterfly<P><P>------------------<BR>My favorite quote....<BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be handeling your problems today. I will not need your help, so sit back and have a good day."<BR>

Hi Crazy,<BR>It's good to hear from you. I was thinking about you yesterday and sending you many hugs. <BR>I know all to well what you are feeling. It SUCKS! It will get better, I promise. Your H is the one that needs to grow up. He is behaving like a child. If he wants to 'play house' with another women, I say let me. You are much to good to be treated this way. Any wants this ' note sure if its permanent' stuff. He need a kick in the rear.<BR>I've been praying that God get out His 2x4 and whack these people right upside the head. <BR>I'm really mad at my h today. He came over to get our daughter for their usual Sat. afternon. He says, " I'll have her back about 6:00. That ought to give you time to mow the yard!" What a pig. Mowing has ALWAYS been his job. His only job around here, might I add.<BR>I was thinking last night that I should have been the one to have an affair. After all, he claims he never loved me. He certainly never showed me any love. So why wasn't it me that went looking? Maybe because I have too much class!<BR>Keep you chin up, we are here for you.<BR>LOL<BR>Cheryl

Crazy - I've been wondering how it went. I'm so sorry you're having to deal w/ this.<BR>Country music might not be the best, unless you want to get it all out. I've turned to "oldies" the last couple of days to cheer me up.<P>I can't believe HE told YOU to "grow up". Are you ready for plan B? Do you think you can handle him the way he's been acting so far?<P>I'm thinking about you and here if you need me. Stay strong, my friend. And vent all you want.<P>Lori

LOLOL-i think i would rather be living a country song than a rap song LOL I love country music. and that "somebodys gonna give you a lesson" has been one of my fav's since I found out about the OW-even if the song is being sung about the male sex. Country songs definitly have a way of making someone feel; really down when they are already down. The first song I heard after H told me about his affair was "Wrong again". Wait-don't you all go running to your radios before you finish reading this So I went out and bought tickets to see Martina McBride-she sings the song-at a local fair. We went to see her a week and a half ago-and H knows what that song means to me. She is a fantastic singer-listen to her music. In fact she has a new one out now called "I love you".<P>See you again soon-<P>heartache

Hey all, Thanks for the uplifts! I'm feeling better now after my nap. I went out with the girls to the casino last night. Didn't get home until 3:00am and had to be up at 6:00am.<BR>So maybe just a little crabby. <P>I've been listening to some good country songs too. <BR>Terri Clark has one on her new cd called I'm all right. Great song I crank it when I'm in the truck. <P>Ceecee, I sure hope you didn't mow the lawn. Hire it done and bill your H. That will really p**s him off.<P>Lostva, Yes, I think this week I'm going to try plan B. Try is the word because if he comes over with that smile, or that really sad face I can't promise that I won't melt again. He's just so darn gorgeous(sp?)<BR>Last night we went looking for some good looking men. Didn't find a one. Most where middle age drunks looking for a good time.<BR>Or these guys that were winking at us. You know the high rollers wearing jewelry and polyester. Yuck. Give me a cowboy anyday!<P>Talk to ya all later!<P>Jiller

Wrong Again is the first country song i heard when my H left. it was strangly comforting. it still is..."my chance for happiness had passed, my poor heart would never mend..." it talks about how she goes on to find love again...i try to sing it and remind myself that someday i will find love again, hopefully with the same old jerk (as you can see i have a ways to go).

Jill - glad the nap helped. I wondered what you were up to last night. Keep going, Honey, you'll find a cowboy!!!<P>That smile is deadly, isn't it?? I have the SAME problem. But, you're strong and fiesty, Red, you can handle it. It'll kill him to see you getting on w/ your life w/out him. Did you read Cheryl's post yet? I'm plotting revenge now! Give me a couple of glasses of my wine tonight and I bet I'll come up w/ some REAL good ideas! Another Saturday nite......<P>Talk to you later.<P>Lori