My husband and I have been together for eleven years now, he is seven years my senior. We have a three year old daughter. To make a very long story shorter, he is recovering from depression (he says) and is finding solace in another woman on line. He has always played computer games, and in the past year found one that is multi-player and online, so he can play with real people and meet 'friends'. Suffice it to say that even when I play with him, we usually play at the same time even at the same table, but hardly together most of the time. He says he loves this other woman on a soul-deep and everlasting level..but that it in no way detracts from his love for ME. He insists that I am his soul-mate. I want this relationship to end in the worst way; we have had two painful arguments/discussions about it...is it possible for a man to feel this much love and passion for two women? Every fiber in my being says no. There is much more to this story, and I will be happy to tell it all (if anyone's interested) but my main question is how do I get them to stop? He thinks it is perfectly ok for her to be in 'our' lives, he can love two people so much. He is recovering from depression (not ever seen a doctor about it), and my feeling is to be patient, work on meeting his needs, try to be his friend and recreational partner (but if he's playing the game, it is hard), and fill his love bank. The other woman is a religious woman, recently divorced; I think she might see what she is doing is wrong, pining for a married man. But...how can I meet his needs if I am in direct competition with her? Am I doing the right thing, telling him how I feel (despite the ineveitable fight) and trying to be his friend? Just being patient, let the affair die on its own, not meddle or snoop, have the faith in him that he insists he has in me?
