I hope someone could help me! My husband and I have been married for more than 15 years now. He is 38 I am 37. We have a 7 and a half year old child and we agreeded to have another one but my husband's sex drive is very low while I am very willing and eager. I do not know what to do to help him or what he could do to help himself. Does anyone know of any good natural affrodisiac. He will not take medications like viagra so I will like some more natural solutions. We love each other inmenslly and another child will make our lives even more complete. Hope to hear from you soon. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi Mimita.<p>Our MB member "Getting very tired" posted the below:<p>Okay I will be the man here.
yes it has happned for a while to me.<p>I was on viagra for a bit but even that didn't seem to help some time.<p>Some of the problems that can cause it are
Overweight
Alcohol (prolonged usage or a lot previous to the act)
Liver disease
Low libodo
high blood pressure medication
certain other medication
Low testosterone<p>My suggestion talk to him about it gently (males have very fragile egos in this department. My wife was wonderful about it but that still didn't keep me from withdrawing). Suggest he see a doctor and get some bloodwork done to include a testerone count.<p>Some of the herbal stuff on the market can help TREMENDously. It generally takes a while to work (about a month or two) and can be a bit expensive but not overly so.
Some things I would recommend on the herbal side
is <p>CHrysin
L-Arginine
Horney goat weed
(I have taken these for a few months and I have no complaints except a wife who is absent to share the newfound feelings with)<p>There is another substance but I can't think of the name. Read up on the substances as the one whose name I can't think of you can't take if you have High blood pressure or a few other conditions.<p>Good luck

Lack of sex drive can also be a sign of clinical depression.<p>If it's not a physiological problem (can't versus won't)---then perhaps you need to spice things up in the bedroom. I think lots of time we put sex on the back burner--the last thing like putting out the cat before bed---I think we need to bump it up in priority. Plan a romantic evening at home---candles, soft music, bubble bath for two...and as men tend to be more visual than we do, I would suggest perhaps you start things by yourself...and have him come watch for a moment.
Honestly, {blush} my H LOVES video games and when I want some attention, I go into the room he's in and 'take matters into my own hands' for a bit. Pretty soon, the tv goes off and so do we. (of course, ya gotta get rid of the kids for this).<p>Also, don't put too much pressure on the baby thing--I'm sure he'll be thrilled when it happens but it's a BIG decision---even if you already have one---and maybe subconciously that's a factor. I guess what I'm trying to say is be patient and loving and the rest will take care of itself.

[QUOTE]Thank you very much for your advice. I will check about the herbs. My H is not in optimum shape but he is not overweight eather. He does not, drink alcohol, suffer from high blood preasure, nor liver illnesses but has a problem with going to doctors because his mother and aunt both died because of malpractices in hospitals. He only goes when he can not stand a pain or something like that. I, on the other hand, am doctor friendly. So I need some advice on how to approach him to encourage him to do those tests. About libodo...Is there a cure for that? In regards to spicing things up I am the romantic and innitiator in our marriage and sex life. Whenever he is in the mood everything is great but having sex once every 2 months will make it very hard to conceive a baby. I am going to be 38 next year and am running out of patience to wait. Help please!!
Thanks in advance/QUOTE]<p>[ December 31, 2001: Message edited by: Mimita ]<p>[ December 31, 2001: Message edited by: Mimita ]</p>

Does he want another baby?

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Miss Construed:
<strong>Does he want another baby?</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Yes. About 4 years ago he was not ready for a second child but now he is telling me he is. I was the first one to ask him about it because he was not trying to hard to improve the frecuency of sex. However he had a low SD for sience 10 years ago.