Although I've been reading previous posts, I am relatively new to the forums. I really hope there's someone out there who can help me. My situation is this....I've been married going on 2 years now and my H and I are having financial problems or more like, arguments whenever we discuss our finances. I make two times more money than he does and I really think its a problem although he says its not. Sometimes, I get angry, not so much at the fact that he makes less, but at how I'm pretty much paying all the household bills and I seem to be the only one worried about the finances. He isn't contributing like he should and now we've gotten behind on our finances because I was off work on maternity leave. I've tried coming up with ways on how to handle our finances, but he doesn't seem to be receptive. How can I get him to see the importance of us working TOGETHER on our finances instead of maintaining/working on them separately? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

Suzie Orman offers help in a few books. Maybe you could read one of them and learn how to work together on your finances. <p>If this is a real need of yours than maybe you should have a heart to heart about the situation. Come to a compromise about how to handle money. I am sure if you showed him just how important it is to you by making an "appointment" to talk it over he will realize that he needs to pay more attention to the matter.

Jenni I know it frustrating, I was one of those guys that didn't do the budget thing either. I didn't do it because everytime i turned around my wife wanted this or that . Or she wanted to go here or there etcc. It seemed to me at that time thtat i was doing a good job. I workeed hard and came home but what she really wanted was a plan. A plan to say to herself and to us that we are going to do this and make it work, beacuse she needed that stablity. I had no clue. Needless to say, after the OH thing that she did i started looking at my like and making some changes. Finances was one of the first. We sat down and listed all the areas that we needed paid, what areas we needed back-up funds for and what areas were long term. What we did was except the fact that we could not save for savings until the little emergency funds were meet and filled. as we went further then we could start meeting the needs of our funds like vacation and nights out etc. We stayed determined though. Its hard to tell your wife after she has had a long day that no we can not go out for dinner, you have to avoid pushing him into those type of positions beacuse it shows that you are just as concerned about a budget as he whats it to be. Eventually after the two of you make some head way you both should start feelng pretty proud of yourselves and go have a dinner and movie to celebrate. It was hard for me to understand what she was getting at as far as a budget is concerned because for one, people what everything now. A man will say we can do this with this money now and then take care of that other thing whrn the time comes. A women wants everything paid for before that time comes and even though they don't say that what allot of things they always bring up how nice it would be to have this or that or look at what they have etc.... Big love buster to a man I think.<p>
My address is zdoc56@hotmail.com if you would like to talk more about a budget thing or just about how I felt about the whole topic.
god Bless oyu Jenni