I've read and read everything on your web page. I really like all the ideas an believe it could work. But!!!! <p>Let me take second to explain, my wife has been gone for 11 months, she has her own apartment. A choice she made on her own, I tried to get her to staty and find some help. But her mind was made and I do believe she had somw help/support. Her unhappiness comes from the idea that she didn't get the family she thought she was going to have. (i.e. 3 kids of mine from my first marriage). I have made mistakes when it comes to that, but I still love my wife very much. <p>So how do I get her back, she won't even call me to see if our dogs are okay; let alone myself or the kids.<p>She has not filed for divorce, which I hold as my only hope. My question deals with the qustionerres on Marriage builder, would it be good to mail them to her? My hope in this that it would show her that I'm doing something about use and hopefully she'll think about it.<p>Please help.<p>Jerry

Jerry, I'll give you the same advice that I gave Woody. This board does not seem to get many replies. Post on Emotional needs, General Questions, you will get a lot more responses. I can't explain this, just an observation. There are many here who know what you are going through and will listan and help. Prayers to you, Ladysing

Please don't post the same question in different forums. Once is enough.<p>No it would NOT be a good idea. If she is not even talking to you then trying to discuss "the marriage" is not the thing to do.<p>If you do not have any communications with her, I suggest you drop a very short just to see how she is doing, hope everything is okay. Don't make it more than a short paragraph and do not make it mushy & full of "I love you, please come back" stuff.