HELLO, MY NAME IS TRISHA, MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR FOUR YEARS AND 5 MONTHES. WE HAVE A 3 YEAR OLD SON, AND MY TWO A BOY,12, AND A GIRL, 8, FROM MY 1ST MARIAGE. THIS IS HIS FIRST.
WE WERE SO IN LOVE AND HAPPY WITH EAACH OTHER FOR A LONG TIME.. THEN ABOUT 18 MONTHES AGO, WE BOUGHT TWO ADDITIONAL PROPERTIES, AS RENTALS, FOR OTHER MEMBERS OF MY FAMILY- YEAH, I KNOW, THAT WAS OUR FIRST MISTAKE.THAT CAUSED ALOT OF STRESS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP-ALOT OF STRESS,FINANCIALLY AND EMOTIONALLY.THAEN, A YEAR AGO, HE GOT A BIG PROMOTION AT WORK, FROM A DAILY DRUDGERY TO A POSISTION OF MANAGEMENT- AND THINGS HAVE JUST GONE DOWN HILL EVER SINCE.OUR TWO OLDEST ARE ADHD, AND ABUSE SCARRED FROM THEIR BIO-FATHER,IT TAKES ALOT OF TIME AND HARD WORK TO DEAL WITH THESE TWO CHILDREN ON A DAILY BASIS. HE IS NOT VERY COOPERATIVE AND SOMETIMES EVEN BELIGERENT AND CONDESCENDING WHEN DEALING WITH THEM. HE HATES MY FAMILY WITH A PASSION- AND OPENLY COMMENTS AND OR DEMONSTRATES THIS. OF, COURSE I HAVE TO BE DEFENSIVE AND ANGRY, TOO. I HAVE REALLY SCREWED ALOT OF THINGS UP TOO- SINCE THE BABY WAS BORN, 3 YEARS AGO, I HAVE WORKED AT HOME-
THIS IS ALSO A CONTRIBUTING FACTOR TO THE STRESS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP, I FEEL SO TRAPPED AND LIKE MY CAREER IS DEAD...AND THEN THE STRESS AND ARGUMENTS WE HAVE- I END UP VERY DEPRESSED(I AM ON PAXIL)AND THIS MANIFESTS IN AN UNCONTROLLED SPENDING PROBLEM. MORE FINANCIAL EMOTIONAL STRESS-
COVER UPS, DEBT AND DELINQUENCIES...WE BECAME SO ANGRY LAST MONDAY NITE, 21ST, THAT DURING AN ARGUMENT, I SLAPPED HIS FACE, AND HE RETALIATED BY PUNCHING ME IN THE STOMACH WITH HIS FIST. OUR 12 YEAR OLD SAW THIS AND CALEED THE POLICE, WHO ARRESTED MY HUSBAND, AND PLACED US BOTH UNDER TEMPORARY RESTRAINING ORDERS, UNTIL OUR COURT DATES IN FEB(21ST&25TH). WE CAN'T EVEN TALK ON THE PHONE OR ANYTHING..AND IT'S DRIVING ME NUTS..
I KNOW HE HAS LITTLE OR NO TRUST LEFT FOR ME, AND I HAVE PRECIOUS LITTLE TRUST OF HIM ANY MORE, EITHER.BUT I DO LOVE HIM- AND I DO WANT TO GIVE US ONE MORECHANCE. I KNOW ITS GONNA BE THE HARDES<p>[ January 30, 2002: Message edited by: trisha_f ]</p>

Trisha,
Welcome to MB. I understand your frustrations and I want you to know that there is hope. Have you two considerd counseling? Let me tell you I wish my wife would have demanded counseling before it was too late. Our marriage was in serious jepordy because we didn't deal with real issues in the first place.
There are alott of good resorces here, the best thing you could do is read read read.
Go to the top of this page and click on concepts. This will give you a good start.
For me personaly,,,,,, God saved my marriage and family and if you find that hard to belive, just ask me and I'll tell you the whole story....<p>Good luck, and God Bless,<p>SH