I am finding it hard to truly love my husband. First of all, we've been married for 5 years and have two toddlers. Lately, we have been having lots of conflicts. I feel so much resentment because he never spends quality time with me or our kids, he goes out every weekend and sometimes during the weeknights. I have discussed this issue with him so many times in the past, but he does not try to change at all. I am also very suspicious of him always having the ringer off on his cell phone everytime I am around him. I have a hard time controlling my anger and I get verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive toward him as a result of everthing that displeases me about him. I love my husband and want our marriage to be successful, but the least thing he does that I dislike just sends me into a rage. How can I overcome my angry spirit and start loving and trusting my husband properly again? Please help we need it.

Hi there.It seems I am on the other side of the fence. My wife has massive resentment towards me for the same type of reasons. I love her to bits but now she finds it impossible to love me. She wants a trail seperation to see how she feels. We have 2 kids. One 2years and another 11 months.
She holds resentment and wont let go of any issue from the past no matter how long ago. We were very happy until we had kids and she blames it all on me for wanting children and running our marriage.<p>I am in bits and I cant believe I have let this happen to our marraige. We are going to conselling to try and resolve the issues, but my wife is going against her will. I dont know what to suggest but I think you need to get talking, perhaps also to a counseller before it gets too late.

Victorious and Osogood,<p>Please post the same things you have posted here on the emotional needs board. You will get a lot more responses.<p>Victorious, <p>I do not know for sure but it sounds like your H is having an A. Turning the cell phone off, and the mere fact that you are suspicious. I am not saying this is a for sure thing, it could be that he doesnt want to be interrupted while he is with you. But in my experience I have found that your instincts are usually right. There are ways to get over these things. That is why I recommend that you go to the emotional needs side. there are a lot more people and a lot of them are very wise.<p>Good luck to you,<p>Jenni

Victorious, May I suggest seeing your doctor? Tell him of your anger and resentment. And why. He may be able to prescribe meds to help control your emotions so you can make rational decisions and not emotional reactions. I'm on mine and they help amazingly. They help keep the peace while my WS is doing whatever the H it is she's doing right now.