Just for today I would like an opinion on this<p>My 19 y-o step-daughter mailed her bills, then went to pick up her tax refund from the tax preparer and was told she could not receive the check as promised because someone else had used her SS#.<p>She called to ask whether we had claimed her and we haven't even filed yet, and haven't claimed her since she moved out --- about three years ago.<p>The only other person who might have claimed her is her bio-mom. This woman states that she did not claim her daughter. 19 y-o has been on her own, shares an apartment with a friend. Friend runs the checking account. 19 y-o just hands over her paycheck. <p>my dh wants to give his 19 y-o daughter money to keep her checks from bouncing. <p>He asked me what I thought of this and I said I didn't think it was a good idea. However, he later told me that he told her he was looking into a way to see if he could get her the money.<p>Now as for the reason why I don't think it is a good idea....<p>DH is trying to get his daughter to report that someone claimed her and daughter doesn't want to do this in case her bio-mom is lying or made a mistake that may result in her having committed a crime. DH has given his daughter many explainations as to why the SS# use should be reported but his daughter still doesn't want to take any chances bio-mom will get in trouble.<p>Okay. <p>Then there is the fact that we don't have a budget that we follow. We are in debt. My income varies from week to week. Our marriage is struggling for many reasons and which came first the chicken or the egg, but we have a rebellious 16 y-o on our hands. Guess who is the bad guy in that scenario as well. Dad says she isn't into sex. Dad says she isn't into drugs. Don't look now dad but ....<p>My lovely, very sweet, at least she is now, not when she was the rebellious 14, 15 and 16 yo, big hearted step daughter took a lovely vacation at Walt Disney World last year. She had money to do that. She and her roomie purchased a dog without a place to live. So the dog stayed with us for over two months, pooped and peed where it liked, chewed and damaged our belongings and got us yelled at by the neighbors until I said no more!<p>All the promises to pay siblings for helping us to take care of the dog and promises of a special surprise for us for taking care of the dog were never produced, and the replacement of damaged goods was never produced. Now she doesn't want the dog anymore because it isn't cute. Anyone want a horse masquerading as a dog?<p>My step daughter has a cell phone, do I have one, no.<p>She has to have the things she wants now, even though she got kicked out of 10th grade for fist fight and never completed high school. <p>Do you hear a bit of resentment in my voice.<p>Anyway when I gave my DH the reasons why I don't think lending her the money is a good idea he said he is going to tell her not to come around here any more.<p>What does that have to do with the price of eggs in China?<p>I like her I just think she chose not to live under our roof with our rules and take our advice and finish high school. She had to have everything right now and then when it comes to paying consequences we have to pay them. <p>I don't think my feelings matter to him at all. <p>Well his ex had bills for a mental institution. Maybe I should just book a flight for some nice vacation get away and let him foot the bill.<p>Thanks for letting me vent all of you out there is MB land.
