I have enjoyed MB website for some time now, but, I am new to the forum. I am soooo confused. My husband and I have been married 5 years and together 6. It truley was love at first sight. About 9 months ago, I was laid off from my 4 year job. It really hurt us financially, and turned me upside down, professionally. I had a nice severence package and some savings, as well as unemployment. I took my time getting a new job, since my experience was in a specialized field. I also do not have a college degree. The problem is, now my husband looks at me as a liability rather than his wife. He says I mooch(?), caused us to sell one of our vehicles, and lots of other blame. I got a new job that I really like 1 month ago. I am only making half of what I was and our financial hole will take some time to dig out of. However, he wants a divorce. He says we are going in two seperate directions and sees no future with me. He recently joined the National Guard, agter spending 4 years in the Marines. I think he wants to persue a military career, but, does not want to tell me. Those are just the basics. He has mentioned divorce at least 4 times. I have either talked him out of it by reminding him of our committment or he changed his mine as I was making plans and packing. I love him so much and I am still in love with him. Our marriage before was great. We were best friends, lovers, etc. My confusion is why the rollercoaster and when do I get off the ride? My heart is tearing right out of my chest. Please. Any advise?
FYI: My 1st, his 2nd...

Coastalromance,
Im truly sorry for the pain that you are feeling at this time.
The choice of whether to go or stay is very hard and something that ultimately only you can really decide.
For me, i chose to stand for my marriage. I believe that if and only if i have done everything i can to salvage my marriage will i have that inner peace if he choses to walk away forever.
My husband doesn't live with me and we have been separated before, so i guess i know how it feels to be on that roller coaster ride. 10 years of rollercoasters make you a little sick, yet somewhere inside i still hold on to the hope that we will reconcile and permanatly fix the error of our ways.
It helps to say a few prayers also, helps me to recognise right from wrong, to clarify in my mind and heart that i am standing for my marriage for the right reasons.<p>i hope that you can find some inner peace through your struggle.
Would love to know how things go with you.
Steph
ladyshinobi@hotmail.com