Hi!<p>My wife and I have been married for almost 2 years. She's 26 and I'm 25. My parents worked overseas for the last 20 years so they don't have a house in the US though they do have one in the country they previously lived in. Anyhow, my dad came to live with us first and my stayed back to stay with my other siblings. My wife and dad did not get along and got into many arguments. My dad is the old "rough" ultra male kind of fellow and my wife just hated that. Well now they don't talk at all. Recently my mom arrived and she is the opposite of my dad, really sweet, caring and loving. My wife does not interact with her either though, she does not tell anyone when she enters the house from work (quickly going upstairs before anyone notices). She only comes down to eat and that's about it and even then, she doesn't talk to them. She's entirely different around other people, always friendly and kind but when it comes to my parents, she is always aloof and uncaring. I can't leave my parents and I can't leave my wife. My parents are simply visiting for a while and even now she does not show kindness to them, especially to my mom. When I brought up the topic with my wife, she said "Why are you yelling at me?" and hung up. I'd be happy to add details as needed but this is a big mess in my life and I desperately need advice from all of you! What am I missing here????

Hi there univoice,
Sounds like you are having a rough time ! Im sorry to hear there is so much tension in your house at the moment.
Your W is obviously terribly upset that your parents are with you, your job is to find out why!!!
First, how rude to her was your father and did you say anything to your father about his behaviour and treatment of your W? (W may feel like you haven't defended her opinions to your father).
Remembering that this also is your W's home, her refuge from hard days, a place where she should be able to come home to and unwind, one of the only places where she can feel totally comfortable and at ease. It appears she is not very comfortable in her own home at the moment and is withdrawing to her "own space" within the house.
Second, i do not believe your W should be rude to your mum and should quite possibly compromise with you on this.
tricky situation ! How long have your parents been staying with you and when are they due to return to their own home?
There is one thing that is certain, your W and you need to communicate about this now, not argue .....talk.
Of course, you may be upset that W is not tolerant of your parents, but you need to be able to be patient and kind to her to get to the botton of why W is acting the way she is.
I feel that damage is occuring in your marriage at the moment, it's time to act before it gets worse for you both.
Steph
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