Okay now H is having the OW and her baby stay with him at his parents. Our children went to saty with them this weekend. I am staring to give up on the outside and maybe it will hurt him in the process. My heart still wants and loves him so much.
I went out had fun while the boys spent time with their daddy. It was nice to go out, but I still thought of H, just not as much. I will not file, I will just try and get stronger for my boys and work on my love for them. They go through alot when they see their daddy with the OW.
Ohhh when the boys got asked if they love their baby sister by their cousins they said "SHE is NOT my baby sister! Thats Bailee!" i am so proud of them for standing up to everyone at the young age they are at. Everyone keep praying! H will realize what he has lost and it might be too late when he does. THX EVERYONE for helping me gat through this rough time. I realize it wont get any easier.

Unloved,
First, i think you are wonderful to stand for your M under such difficult circumstances. You are a very strong woman, a mother that your boys will be proud of as they grow older.
I think that your outward appearance of being strong to H is a very good idea, for some reason, men do not like, or cannot handle a highly emotional and crying woman. Maybe it is their guilt at hurting us that does that. Who knows ? ! I am praying that God allows your H to see the error in his ways, i am also praying that he can open his heart to your family once more, for you and for his two little boys who desperately need him.
Keep trusting in the Lord, it will make this all so much easier to go through.
Steph

Well. h came by tonight and we talked for a little over and hour. H and the OW are moving in together in 2 weeks. I am very upset and I didnt try to show it to him. But, I did say that I thought he needed to see aht it was like to live on his own. He has NEVER lived on his own. Right now they are staying at his parents. I told him he should live on his own a few months before the OW moved in. I also told him that he hasnt loved me in along time if he can be separted from me for a month and then have her move in that soon. He started crying, I told him to stop. Theres no reasons for tears anymore. I didnt cry or raise my voice at him, I told him I jus want him to be happy. He said I just dont want to hurt you anymore. I said you hurt me more and more everyday! And I will not be able to trust another man for a longtime if ever and that he had scared me.
I felt good showing that I was strong to him. And that I could go on without him. I think thats what made him cry. Or was that a show?!?!?! Anyways i feel good on what i did.....I finally stood up to him. Is that bad to feel good about that?

Hi there Unloved,
I doubt that your H's tears were for show. More likely as a result of knowing what he is doing to his family.
Be patient, be kind and be strong.
His heart and mind may soon get the better of him, not to mention the fact that he has two little children of his own who are missing him just as much as you.
Keep your faith, keep a good listening ear and be totally honest and forthright. Keep the children in his life.
Keep me posted with updates, love to know how you are doing.
Thinking of you and yours over this easter weekend.