My h says he resents me but he does not know why our therapists says it is deep.He also says he has very little love for me, In the mean time I can not handle not being touched and not hearing him say he loves me and all the things we should be doing as a married couple. I do not know what I have done he is only 28 but do you think he could be going though a mid life crisis? I do not know what to do I am sooo confused!! It hurts me so bad! It is also taking a toll on our 5 year old daughter. He acts like he does not want to even try! There is no other w he says it is just him, he does not know whats wrong?? HELP PLEASE!

Hi MarvMist. I was just going to "lurk" tonight as I've been doing but something in your post caught me. He's 28. How old are you?
The therapist says it's deep. At 28 it can't be too deep. How old are you? I'll have to look for your other posts.
At 28 he's too young to be in a mid-life crisis. There is a point however in men about that age that they start to feel their mortality. They look at where they are, and where they fantasized themselves being. When the 2 don't match up (and they very rarely do) they get cranky, irratable, and impossible to live with. (BEEN THERE, DONE THAT).
And they take it out on those closest to them. Is he doing alcohol and/or drugs?
The midlife crisis may hit in another 10 years. But this is a dangerous time. You hang in there. I'll check for other posts form you to get more of the history.
For now understand it's not you he resents. It's how he perceives himself.
Right now your #1 job is to be a mother to your daughter.
It's not about you.

I am 26 but we have known each other 15 years we were together 2 years before we married. been married for almost 6 years

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by MarvMist:
<strong>I am 26 but we have known each other 15 years we were together 2 years before we married. been married for almost 6 years</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Personally I am interested in finding out how things are going between you. I am finding that I feel the same way with my GF, I am late twenties, she early thirties.<p>She had quite a wild past, sex, drugs, rock and roll. I went to school, and while successful hated it and my experiences there.<p>Now I am finding out more about her past, and while not judging her negativily on it, am interested in that life and trying it. She does not want to go down that road anymore.<p>She has said that I can but by myself, unfortunately it would also mean cheating if I really wanted to. <p>Also, a future life as she wants depends on my success and earning power, as she does not make all that much. <p>So dealing with a bit of resentment myself. Interested and hoping you guys get it worked out.

OK MarvMist, I stand and stay with my previous assessment.

Joe, lose the drugs, marry your GF and keep the sex there, and I'd bet you'll do OK.

Hey Joe-Lost
My husband has been working like a dog to support us. We just built a new house and We have a 1yr old and A 5 yr. Two dogs i choose to have and 4 stray cats and 8 ducks. I did loose interest in the cleaning of the house and so forth I do not work, have not since the 1st child WE BOTH agreed that I should stay home with kids for a while, BUT then I stoped cleaning and cooking ONLY becuase he stopped working on the new house fininshing the inside! so felt like he did not care I felt like He did care and it got so bad until the little things started building up and know he says he does not love me and wants out he has spent roughly 7 days away and he is back We are trying to work it out and see a therapist ect... I think thats were the resentment has come from But we are both trying know and we will see were it goes! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]