This is my first time here and I'm not exactly sure what to say. I'll try to use the correct abbreviations......... my H has been having an affair for 3yrs, discovery date was 7/17/00 and it's been a rollercoaster ever since. He at one time showed interest in following the guidelines in HOW TO SURVIVE AN AFFAIR, but then had contact with her and that went by the wayside. I've requested he move out, even though I don't want him to leave. His girlfriend lives far away, but they both travel with their jobs and see each other that way. We have four children who want us to stay together.........I'll stop for now, but would appreciate some guidance.