Will,<p>Whoa, buddy! Slow down a bit...for us to help, we need a bit more detail but I will try to tell you my experience based on what I got from your posts.<p>#1-you should read everything you can on this site. Plan A/Plan B, the boards, everything. There's lot to be gotten here but remember it is going to take time and hard work.<p>#2-Take a look at the Emotional Needs Questionnaire on this site...perhaps you and your wife can fill one (each) out and then talk about it. Everyone has different priorities for those needs. My husband has high financial support needs but I don't. I need affection more. <p>#3-You must establish some ground rules for 'discussions'. My husband and I have these rules-no cussing, no screaming, no physical voilence (to people or property), no leaving or threatening to leave (he's bad on this one), no name calling, no saying mean things. And if things just get too heated, then it's time to call a break and cool off. 99% of the time, we can stick to the rules. If not, it's real ugly.<p>#4-Read the section of POJA. This is a wonderful tool for helping to resolve conflict and facilitate negotiations. <p>If you would give more detail, we can give more specific replies.-I hate to say 'advice' because I am not a professional and can only give my experience/opinions.<p>Good luck.
PS-Welcome to MB...I think you will be glad you came and that you will find lots of people with great experience and wisdom to share. It's a great place to start re-building a relationship.<p>
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