<BR>Hi! If you read my last 2 posts <BR>you know what's bothering me.My H <BR>and I keep talking about the <BR>problem but he still doesn't <BR>understand why the GAME bothers <BR>me the way it does.Last night I <BR>cried for 8 hrs.{you should see <BR>my eyes!] I only slept 3 hrs.He <BR>made me explain to him why I feel <BR>so betrayed even though there was <BR>no contact or anything.He said <BR>alot of people we know have <BR>actually cheated and they are <BR>still together.He never had that <BR>in mind it was just a game! He <BR>even showed me the woman cause I <BR>wanted to see her.Am I <BR>overreacting?I always was the <BR>jealous type even with just a <BR>casual look.It was the 1st game <BR>ever in 27 years and the last he <BR>says.He also said he'd like to <BR>have some men answer this caus he <BR>thinks the woman will side with <BR>me.How about it do I have reason <BR>to end our 27yr. marraige?He <BR>still insists there is nothing <BR>wrong or ever was with us,he <BR>doesn't know why he even started <BR>this "stupid game".

not to be dumb, but what game are you referring to? Is it a computer game? Or netsex or something? Although I am a woman, I have been involved in internet gaming a bit and understand the draw.<P>I'll try to help if you can respond.<P>Thanks<P><P>------------------<BR>"I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me."

sos68 -- I will echo Sad4Now, what game are you talking about? I am a man (sorry ) and I am also the betrayed I would be more than willing to talk with your H if he is interested but right now I am confused. More info please.<P>God Bless

sos68 -- After my first response to you, I found the post you made to Sad4Now and went and found them.<P>So, I guess I am still a little confused over your H's "game" but let me give you my take, for what it is worth.<P>Without knowing what the "codes" you were not able to figure out are, I would say that your H has come pretty close to having an affair. At the very least, I would say that he is definitely fantasising (sp?) about other women. The fact that he has kept track of his progress makes me feel even more strongly that an affair in the future is a real possibility.<P>So what does that mean? I guess what I would do if I were in your place sos68, I would ask that your H get into counselling with you. For the reasons I stated above, for the fact that he tried to dispose of the evidence by throwing away the calendar, and because of how much it obviously coincerns you. By the way, I would also suggest that you consider counseling. IF there really is nothing to worry about as your H claims, then maybe you have other issues going on which are working on you. Either way, and regardless of whether or not you and or you H go to counseling, I think that you might find benefit from the principles of this forum. In otherwords, read the articles by Dr H. Work together with your H to attain the goals which are talked about in those articles. Talk with each other. Honesty is absolutely a major priority in any marriage, but it sounds to me like yours has been lacking total honesty for a while.<P>sos68, What I have said here is strickly my own opinion. I don't want you or your H to feel that I have all the answers. Far from it (I am a member of this forum after all). Should you or your husband want to talk about this further, then please let me know.<P>I Hope I was able to help.<P>God Bless

I was surfing around in here and came across your post. It sounds almost like something out of some movie. I wish i could recall which one.<BR>That this all started in a casino makes me wonder if it has more to do with some kind of gambling related thing than outright sex. Has your husband said who elsoe is playing this 'game' It also strikes me as kind of stalking like. Even as a guy I can see why you're worried but I also wonder if your scared because you have a deeper suspicion as to what this is all about.<BR>There are a lot of silly stupid things that men do that women do take as violating a trust. I'll confess to enjoying playboy etc..., but it really is so seperate from my love for wife that it has nothing to do with her. Sometimes she feels threatened but she has also admitted that she knows its a side of me that has nothing to do with us aside from making me more aroused for her. As a hard as it is to believe her smile and face is always there. The centerfolds always lose to my wife. So... sometimes I wonder if I look as a way of boasting to my self how pretty my wife is. But I couldn't cheat on her despite even our current problems. <BR>But you husbands game sounds weird to me. I wonder what that woman would say.Probably feel stalked.<BR>Learn more about it and try to get some help. If it is nothing I'd still try to join in on it. Maybe you could become the mystery women he's trying to spot.Maybe you need to stay way from casinos for a while.<BR>By the way, some men can have sex without it being physical just ask our President and Monica.:-)

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