My husband was diagnosed with claudication--hardening of the arteries in his legs 2 1/2 years ago at age 45. He had been having pain and trouble walking for a few years but would not go to the doctor until I drove him to the ER one day when he couldn't walk more than five minutes at a time one afternoon. That is when he finally decided to get help and had surgery that was successful. The problem is that he has regressed back to his former lifestyle of eating wrong and smoking. Now his legs are beginning to bother him again. When I try to talk to him about his condition he makes promises he will see his doctor, even lies about seeing the doctor, but so far nothing is changing. I am becoming very frustrated. Any suggestions?

T,<p>Have you considered making the appointments for
him? I’ve had to do this with my own husband. He
thought it Was sweet. But I could see how other
men might view it as you being too motherly. If that’s the case, you could buy him a very loving
card and explain how much you love him and worry
about him and that you made an appointment That
you hope he keeps. (then give date and time).
Might Want to remind him that he’s your best
friend and that you Only did it because you care. <p>Or… Bring up ONCE more that he should go to the
Doctor. He might say something like “I know, I
will”. You could use that opportunity to make the appointment yourself something like “Oh, I went
ahead and called the doctor and set-up that
appointment for you, I know How busy you are”.<p>Either way, you can certainly call the Dr’s
office after the appointment to make sure he
made it.
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