I just need to vent and see if anyone has any suggestions.<p>H does not support family financially. He does help out but I make the entire house and car payments, half the groceries & utilities, etc.<p>Found myself strapped and forged his name to a loan......H found out 2 1/2 years ago. I know I shouldn't have done it but it's done & overwith. H has not communicated except to rant & rave about other faults he finds in me.<p>He is always telling me to file for divorce. Finally had it and did. Then he tells me that he doesn't want a divorce and started threatening me with other lawsuits involving a business that I formerly had a controlling interest in if I went through with it. <p>To make a long story short, I dismissed the divorce. H is still out of the house. Thought he wouldn't come home because the house was too messy for him. I know I am a horrible housekeeper but have been working away trying to get things straighened around in my junk room.<p>Tonight he said he would give me one week to get the entire house, basement, kitchen cabinets, etc. cleaned & if it wasn't done, he was going to file for divorce.<p>The stress from the past 2 1/2 years has finally taken it's toll. My blood pressure is sky high. In the past it has been low.<p>He has been coming around wanting sex. I feel as if I am being used. If I don't give him what he wants, I'll take more verbal abuse. <p>I told him a month ago when we were discussing reconciliation that I would like to be taken out on a date and gave him some other suggestions on how I would like to be treated but he doesn't have time for me. He has never had time for me in the 25 years we have been married.<p>Of course, everything is always my fault. I MAKE him throw & break things. It is impossible to carry on a civilized conversation with him.<p>Thanks for letting me vent.
