okay, i've known about this MB for about a year now... wife moved out a year ago, my drug use out of hand... took everything, didn't tell me where she was going... demanded i get clean and work on my issues. sought help through NA and MB... seperate resources for seperate issues... <p>attended MB in Dallas 9/01... (around same time had moved back "home") attempted the courses, however, not much positive yield. posted a couple of times, only to find out wifey was using my username and password -- was not positive, reading the posts. used it as a forum for exchange of negativity.<p>here i am, clean for a year... that ought to be worth something, right? i continue to focus on recovery from addiction and on this marriage as well...(too much?)<p>(a twist) found out recently wife was doing cocaine... she decided to get clean also... (thank God). <p>last friday, called her at noon to say "hi, how ya doin'?" she says "i'm moving..." deja-vu<p>she claims nothing has changed... i admit somethings haven't some things have... i do have hope today.<p>she clearly doesn't know what she wants... she wants "atleast a year" to get herself together... i don't know if i can do another year trying to save this marriage... <p>MY QUESTION: we agree that we have an unhealthy relationship... can any relationship be made healthy? after MB seminar, i thought so... but now i'm unsure.<p>it's getting difficult to care about this relationship with all of the new stresses... being alone... financial hardship... disappointment...etc.<p>i'm sure someone can relate...
