My W and I have been married for 1 rough year. My W now dislikes my whole family, a fact that hurts me a great deal. This stems from the fact that I invited my parents to our wedding in Vegas against her wishes. She has no parents to invite, but I thought it would be nice to have them anyway. Because of that, she now fiercely hates my mother. Simply mentioning my parents causes BIG fights, and has nearly taken us to divorce several times. I want to stay together, especially since we now have a newborn girl. It just hurts me so much that she hates my family so much. She is even against letting them see our daughter, a major bone of contention.<p>I know that I must keep my wife first in my life, but she has forced me to call and verbally attack my mom several times, bringing my mom to tears each time. I feel so stuck in the middle here. What can I do? I love them both so much, yet I feel like everyone's enemy.

There has to be more to this than attendance at a wedding a year ago. Why doesn't your wife have any parents - did they die, or did she have some disagreement with them? Maybe some others would have some ideas if you filled out the picture a bit.<p>There are several books about mother-in-law relationships an Amazon search might turn up something. I got some from the library, but I don't remember the authors.<p>Take care