My husband and I have been together 3 years and we have a two year old son. The past few months my husband and I have not completely agreed. We have our lovey dovey moments, but he has been very distant. A few weeks ago we went to visit his hometown and his family and he acted very strangely, as if he really didn't want me there. I was very hurt. I told him that if he was unhappy and wanted to stay in Illinois then he could, but he insisted he loved me and wanted to come back to where we lived. Sunday night he called and asked to spend time with some friends from work, he does that about 3 times a month. I said fine. He did not get in until 4 A.M. which hurt me, because he works 6 days a week, sometime 7. I work days and he works nights, so we never see each other. I waited for him that night and explained to him that I was unhappy and he said he would try to think of my feelings. Last night, he called from a friend's house about midnight, said he would be home shortly. He didn't get home until 7 A.M. and when I confronted him, he said that he still loves me, but it isn't true love and that sometime people get tired of people. He has suggested that he move out, but I really do not want him to move at all. I love him tremendously, but I really do not know what to do. Please help.

Apparently he doesn't love you as much as he says. Words are easy for a man. Let's see some action. It seems pretty obvious that he is sleeping with another woman as hard as that seems to believe. If he wants to move out, let him as soon as you can pack his bags. By your hanging on to him like that he loses respect for you all the more and you are enabeling (encouraging) his behavior.

You cannot do the work of two people. Marriage, unfortunately, takes two.

There is something going on, he is not sure he wants to let go of you to persue it, but he wants it.

I completely agree with wife and mom.
If he is staying out all night....I have a hard time believing it's to crash on his buddy's hard floor. There is something or someone who is keeping him away from home. And then to say he needs his own time, and possibly move out? That's just too much. Don't let him drag you down...he will loose respect for you and you will come to hate yourself and him for doing it. Think with your head on this one, not your heart and do what is best for you and your child.