I am totally beside myself. My husband has become very critical of everything my family says. If you make a comment to him, he will analyze it seven ways till Sunday. He often takes things the wrong way.

My husband has decided that he will no longer go to spend time with my family any longer. He has not asked me to stop seeing them, but I am so upset that he does not want to see them.

His main problem is with my mom. She likes to joke around and have fun. Most people love her, but my husband doesn’t find her funny at all. There have been a few times when my mom has not said the right things to him, but she doesn’t have any bad feelings for him. He also makes comments that my dad is cheap. I don’t know how he can say this or why it even really matters. My dad and mom paid for my education, my side of the wedding and I even lived at home till 25 with out paying room and board. My dad is a kind man and very quite.

My family means everything to me. I think the world of them and I will not loose them out of my life. What can I do to fix this break? My parents have no idea that he feels this way. I am always upset. Actually I think I may be going through a depression. I cry all the time, I am having a hard time eating and I have the worst feeling of anxiety all the time.
I am seriously thinking that I may not be able to fix this. How can I have a family with my husband when he chooses not to associate with my family? I don't know if I can continue feeling this way. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I know this is hard, I have the same problem going on with my H and my family. Honestly though if I sit back and look at the whole situation I can see where my H is coming from. My family caused MANY problems with us when we were first married, some very extremem and some less extreme but quite a few of them that put alot of stress on our marriage. We stopped talking to them for about 2 years and over the last year have been talking with them again, obviously I am more enthusiatic about this than H since I had 18 years with them before we stopped talking and H had only known them a year and a half. He saw all the hurt I went through and the wedges that they attempted to drive between he and I. I can admit that I am to blame for some of the problems and I realize that now. Just the other day my H told me he hated my family and I was angry at first but after I cooled off and thought it overI could see why, he knows nothing of their "good side" he doesnt kknow about all the good times we had together, he only sees what they have done since we have been married.

So I guess in short what I am saying is sit back and look at the whole picture and you may see why he is acting/feeling this way. Also remember hw only knows your family from what they have been since he met them and he doesnt know them like you do or care about them as much.

Tara

Well, you need to ask yourself what is most important to you, your family or your husband? In life you win some and you lose some.

I had the same problem 9 years ago. I left my wife and kids because my wife all she did is go to her family. I got sick of it.

You are blessed! you have your husband and your family.

I am a female and I feel the same way about my husbands family. Though not for the reasons you listed here.

I am concerned that your husband may be isolating you. This is a techinique of abusers. I agree with whoever said, look closely at your husbands concerns. If you find that they are without merit, or that his criticisms have nothing to do with the way they treat him personally, you may have to see them without him.

I have no problems with my husband seeing his family without me. I love him and would never want to creat distance between him and them. But, his father does not like me, and the rest of his family is hard to read. I need to stay out of the picture because I cannot read the ones who seem ok nor can I accept being in someones company who I know would rather not be in mine.