I have been daing a man who I am very much in love with for two years. He has a 13 year-old daughter and a soon to be 11 year-old son. I have a 16 year-old son and an 11 year-old daugher. I have always been a strict parent (maybe too strict at times) but my children are very responsible and well behaved. They help around the house and help me with laundry. We all get along very well despite my son's hormone issues right now. My children get along well his children. My son is somewhat of a big brother figure to his son. His daughter and my daughter get along well; however, his daughter is babied by her father. He treats my daughter much more distant even when she tries to give him a hug. His son cries like a baby when he is the least bit hurt or it storms outside. His daughter is afraid to be alone even in broad daylight and he never leaves them alone even though he lives in a safe neighborhood with great neighbors that would be there in a minute if they needed them. They always ask about where we are going, what are we doing. He even talks baby talk to her occassionally and hugs and kisses her like a three-year-old rather than a 13 year-old. I want to point out that there is nothing going on between them that would suggest any abnormal sexual contact, it's just that he treats her likes she's a tiny child. He is a very good father in the respect that he spends a lot of time with them doing outside activities. He has them half of the week and his ex has them the other half of the week. He is very active in their sports and activities. I spend a lot of time with my children too; however, I don't have the funds for all of these activities and we spend a lot of time talking and we have gone boating with them and occassionally. We've done a lot of other things together also, but sometimes my children can't take the babying with his children, and often get's short-tempered with my children when he is irritated. He does scold his son, but he never scolds his daughter even if she needs it. When he babies his daughter, it is so annoying to me and my children it is rediculous. When we first started dating, he was like this, but I just figured that she was immature and would eventully grow out of this. Wrong. It's two years later and I'm sick of it. He also would do more things by himself with the four children as his work schedule is very flexible. Lately in the last six months though, it has just mostly been him and his two children. My children aren't invited even though he knows I am at work and they are home alone. My son does not drive yet. He took his children boating yesterday and the day before, knowing my kids were home and they weren't invited. We have talked about marriage in a couple of years when my son graduates from school, but now this has me worried that his children will still be babied and catered to so much that my children will resent their daily chores that they are used to. We went on vacation together and he and I took some time alone and his daughter was upset. His son started screaming when he and I took a little walk and left the four children in our townhouse we rented. I'm a little afraid that all this babying is going to really cause some real conflicts later on down the road. I'm also guessing that his daughter wants her Daddy all to herself and that is why my children are no longer invited. Also, I have had his children on several occassions and did things with them by myself. I have not discussed all of this with him yet, because I wanted someone elses experiences and suggestions.