It all started one month ago i was at the cottage with the kids,but just before that my wife was seeing an old friend from her childhood..she has been going out with her now alot of times..staying up all knight ...well when she came up to the cottage after she finished work..she talked to me a little when i greated her and she said she was very tired.so well she went for a sleep .from then i was angree at her thinking to myself she is doing things like this without me..and she not wanted to have sex with me so i gave her the look and did not talk to her all that day( big mistake now i know!!)when we arrived at home that knight i talked to her about us..we have been married now 12 years and sex has gone down hill for me ..i mean i would make love to her once every 2.5 month when she wants to i alway ask and she say no ...by now it is getting to me so i asked her if it was me or what i told her about the love thing and how it is getting to me and that she was going out having fun comming home not saying anything to me...i just asked her if she likes to have sex with me or not i feel i'm not good enough for her so she does not want it well now she is angree at me she does not know if she loves me anymore .nor she said it is not fair for me to go through this having no sex ..now she wants to leave because she is not sexualy active?????i told her i'm not letting this go ..now a month has passed and she does not know what she wants to do exept go to her friends house. sometime she does not even come home??? i'm lost i don't know what to say i know i screwed up by getting jellouse .it just seems like i can't fix this and i'm getting worried..i don't want to loose her..

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. Hang in there and keep reading the posts on this board. They are helping me and I know they will help you too. Keep working on trying, never give up...you have to change yourself and let her see those changes in you. Best of luck and keep posting, it helps to vent your feelings.

thanks i thought it was me??? well it is now sat night and she went out and she says she packed a small bag just incase she sleeps a her friends house i guess all i can do is show her ?? i just hope she still thinks of us when she is out there.i'm just worried she might like what she is doing and want to do it alone??? i'm scared but i won't give up...thanks for the response
i will keep posting