Last night, I said "I Love You" to my H and he replied "Oh really, maybe you need your head examined" This occured at a resturant and my son, who had excused himeself to the mensroom returned, so I really couldn't respond or probe......<P>Later in the evening, we were cuddling and I had decided to just put it out of my mind....I got up put the dog out, etc (all the little tihings you have to do before going to bed) when I came back into the living room, my H starts telling me how awful he feels, (sudden headache sysdrome). I guess he must have thought I expected a "performance". I hadn't really but would not have turned him down (ha ha)<BR>This morning he wakes me up (he had a 8 am tee time) and says he "sorry" about last night he really felt like s**t.....I just kissed him goodbye without acknowledging....<P>This is all starting to bother me.....is she back in the picture? did she ever leave the picture???? He's avoiding me. Help what do I do????

Once- not familiar with your whole story, but are you guys in marital recovery stage? Don't forget the rules of care and honesty. You need to ask him for honesty including if there has been contact with OP. Any contact could affect any withdrawal there has been up until now. Hang in there, but remember the rules and no lovebusting (sounds like you've done that one).

Martial recovery? I guess so.<P>He's been so good for months, until about 3 or 4 weeks ago. I mean he still at home in the evening, etc. but has started to act alot like he did before I confronted him last OCTOBER.....Has gotten angry again, and defensive.<P>Last night my H, my son and I went for icecream, my H wanted a Shake, but when I brought it to him it was too thick to drink....he just went off on me, right in front of our son.....like I made it too thick!! Anyway, I brought it back to the counter and the next one was thick enough, he started again......<BR>When we got home, my son follows me upstairs and say, why do you stay with him, lets go!<BR>My son is only 13, and I don't know how to handle this........He's father keeps cutting me down in front of him, and it's ruining their relationship.....<BR>Honesty? I'm not allowed to ask or questions....<BR>Such a mess I'm in!