Hi
I have been divorced for 2.5 years. I meet another women, it was wrong and I deeply regret it. I have been seeing my ex-wife for 2 years she said that she forgives me and my 3 kids did the same. But she will not let me back in all the way, she will not even think about marriage right now. And she wants me to change so much that I don't think I will be able to please her. But I love her some much. Here is some of the thing she want me to do and I've completed a lot of them.
1. Get a new job, to get away from the other
woman.(completed)
2. Get my money in order. (completed)
3. Buy her a new van, she thinks the other
woman was in it. Not true (not completed)
4. Buy her a cell phone and servise (not
completed)
5. Buy her a tanning bed (not completed)
6. pay her 5000.00 for past money problems
I had in the begining of our marriage (not
completed).
and then she has said a lot of things to like she wishs she had not given up her boyfriend to come back to me and she will never love like she did and there is a lot more that I will get into if someone responds. What do you think am I on the right road.

I'm glad you got a new job and got your financial difficulties in order.

However, the rest of her list sounds more like extortion than love to me. Have you considered doing some couples copunseling prior to getting back together?

Donny, your wife's list does not sound reasonable.
Where is her list of what she needs and wants emotionally? Where is her list of dreams for the two of you together?

It would be awesome if your relationship you could be restored and I believe in miracles--it could. But I agree with Kam, see if she'll consider counselling together with you. It sounds like she either has a lot of maturing to do or a lot of anger to resolve or maybe both.

You are remorseful for the wrong relationship so that is good. I know how hard it is to forgive yourself but it kind of sounds like you haven't given yourself the gift of forgiveness for that yet. You've made things right. Now walk the narrow path until you know where things will go with your W.

Hang in there and welcome to MB. You'll make a lot of good friends here. It's a safe place to air your hurts and ask your questions and find lots of support.