I've been married to my husband for 1 year and we lived together before that for 6 months. We have been constantly fighting for 3 months now. We have 2 kids each from previous marriages and none together. He is very insensitve and very domineering and basically his word is law. I used to be a very submissive person, but now I just feel like my self esteem has been smashed to the ground. A lot of things have built up to this but I'm trying to be strong because I don't want to let this marriage fail like my last one. Any idea what I can do to become a stronger person and know that his comments are just his personality and not his way of beating me down...and stop taking things so personally.

I could only suggest counselling. Your side of the story suggests that you made yourself a doormat and he's taken advantage of that. Or you've shown yourself indecisive and weak and he's felt the need to become tyranical.
Either way I think counselling is the way to go.

i could completely relate to that. he is older(my husb) than me, and more experianced, and he is killing my personal will...right now, i am in terrible possition, jobless, and have a problems with my health. He is abusing me, both verbaly, and hitting me(once he broke my cartilige in the knee). I feel like completely not having control of my life. He loves me, he is faitful, but it seems to me he is having ego problems, or even jesus comples....he wants to rule. He is very agressive with other people as well, and loosing friends for being control-freak...SOS...Help!!!
I feel very, very painful..like bleeding inside.
We will be 2 y. this spring, and 2 more -almost 4y. together...somethimes it works....and ususally id dont. I hate being victim....he is telling me, he has all rights to hit me, and he hit me...at least 3 times montly. He verbaly abuses me...telling me the worst names... I think he needs some pills or something...i think nobody have right to hit enyone, even one's culture is supporting that idea.
I have a place to go, but not yet a job. I left my school, so we could live more comfortably, from that money. In the case i go...i wonder, how would i ever forgive myself...for not trying more...but i am sick od being submissive and hit, and hurt.
Also, i wonder how he will go further...we both love each other very much...but he gives humself a right of God...My own father never hit me...this is very hard to live with person who loves you and still-hurts you...to remember how hurted me when he was breaking up my knee and telling me i desearve it...it stays somewhere...but he does not see it...he sees just my mistakes...Also, he is yoga and meditation teacher...so next time you go to a yoga course...the teacher might talk about love, and breaking knee to his wife.
What would you do if you where me?
Sincerely,
lena

Lena,
You need to find a safe place and get away from him. This will not get better. Physical abuse gets worse over time, not better.