Help! My husband owns 2 small businesses. One does property improvements, the other builds homes. He works 6 sometimes 7 days a week. When we do have "our time" it will get interrupted by his cell phone. I realize some calls are important, but sometimes it gets annoying, even to him. He has tried to shut it off at night but since that is when most of his clients are home its not easy.
His goal is to become a millionare by retirement, and he told me I am holding him back by getting upset when I feel I am not getting enought time. We have 4 children who love their dad very much, but also feel there is not enought time with him. He has provided us with a comfortable life otherwise.
I have always wanted him to succeed, and have tried to help by taking care of office needs and doing home improvement projects myself so he did not have to spend his work time on his own house.
I have also tried to help by getting any information from the internet that may be help his business (tips from National Association of Home builders) He gets very offensive and tells me that he doesn't need any help. He has said that if I know everything, Go start my own business and he will do dishes at home. He feels that no matter what he does I don't think he's doing it right. I am only trying to help with suggestions. He has mentioned divorce so "you can find some guy on welfare to sit on the couch with you" I am concerned for his health because he works so much. He is 38 and his grandfather dropped dead of a heart attack at 43. He has not had a physical in years because we have no health insurance. Occasionally it seems that he is willing to do the work of others too (helping the mechanic fix his plowtruck till 10:00pm to get it done quicker) I can understand his reasoning but get jealous that he is not with me.
I have asked him if there was any way to cut down on "time" at work, but he feels he should be able to take all the time he needs to make money. Our current accountant told him to decide what he would like to do, because he is doing too many things at once.
I just can't stop the feeling that I am not important.(My first husband left me for a co-worker)I think thats where the jelousy comes in.
When we get along, we get along great. But when he feels I ask too many questions about what is going on in the businesses, He gets extremely upset with me. Should I just back away and not care about when he will be home, how the businesses are doing,what he did during the day, and if I can help make the business better? I have already quit doing the bookwork. Now he is threatening to close both businesses and work 2 or 3 jobs instead to keep up with the bills.
I don't know what to do, neither of us is happy when it comes to doing business. Even though he says he is doing it for his family. Please help.