My W and I have had trouble now for quite a while. The problem is that I cannot make her happy or keep her happy. No matter how hard I try and the good things that I do, she is never happy. She is not an unhappy person in that our kids, work, friends do make her happy. It is just me. We have discussed that she does take out frustration on me from other things. This I can live with but to constantly live in a world where she is mad at me for insignificant things is getting very frustrating for me. I have read the MB Basic Concepts and His Needs, Her Needs. I am not a bad husband or bad father. I do try and do all the things to meet her needs but this is never enough.

Is this a sign of something more that are M will not succeed. She has told me on more than one occasion that she is emotionally divorced and not sure what she wants to do - separate or not. What is the view on separation - does absence make the heart grow fonder or out of sight out of mind? She has asked me to not push her. This has happened in the past and she has come around but why does she keep doing this. Are there others that have this same problem? We are in counseling but that is not working very well either.

I need help big time. I am still committed but getting very frustrated.

I tried to talk to her last night but she is not ready and can't "deal with this now". I can't not deal with this now - I am going crazy and scared I will do or say something I will regret.

Any words of advice?

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