I have been married for almost 10 years and we have 3 children. My husband is currently working as a fireman/emt and is working 2 jobs while I complete my BA degree in Education. It was his choice to work 2 jobs while I finish school, which will be complete in May 2004. Both of his jobs require 24 hour shifts, so he works at one, works at the other, then comes home. He is home only 1 out of 3 days. He freely admits that one of his jobs is an easy one, meaning he spends his shift either napping, watching television, or playing cards with the guys. I am currently attending school full time, with 15 hours a week of class time and 12 hours a week driving to and from school. On top of that, I need time to study and do homework. My husband does not help with ANY chores at home, including the children! He spends his day home in front of the television or computer, while I try to juggle household chores and children and school work. He doesn't even try to play with our children or spend quality time with them; he always wants them to go play in their room. I have tried talking to him about this and tried to get him to help a little more, but he refuses to discuss it; he usually does not even acknowledge that I am talking to him. I am tired of being a single parent! What can I do???

I know a lot a friends who are in this same situation, basically it seem your H see's the kids and house as your job ( in a traditional kind of way).....he brings in the money and you take care of the house and the kids kinda thing.The fact that you also work hard to go to school, maybe he sees that as your decision, and wouldnt be to concerned if you were to give it up, and become the perfect wifey! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
how you deal with it, im not sure- sorry.
but maybe you could try to find out what he doe's think your roles in the marriage are/should be.
i think a little insight into what he believes, could help you work out a whole lot more about him than he even knows he's telling you.
Either way good luck <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Forgot to say also, think about how his parents relationship is/was......this could also help you find some answers.