I hope that some of you old timers will pick this up, and also idontunderstand. I am divorced and she knows all my unsavory past. This has caused us some problems, because she is constantly suspicious of all my activities. I have given her access to everthing, bank statements, phone records, even my e-mail. I call her all the time to let her know where I am, but she is still constantly suspicious of my activities. Our relationship has not been going well largely because of my inability to be a good sexual partner. My divorce was traumatic for me and I was the cause for it. I feel I still carry some guilt for that and may hamper my ability to go forward, plus trying to be a better person and learn new habits and turn my back on old bad habits. I was a cheater in the past, she knows it and I have kept no secrets from her, but that doesn't seem to make things any better. She says that because our sex life isn't what she thinks it should be is what keeps raising red flags. I think I might have been a Sex Addict in the past, but have gone cold turkey on that and maybe that has something to do with my shortcomeings now, I'm not sure. I'm feeling desperate that I don't want to lose this person, but at the same time I think maybe she has some issues she is not facing that may be clouding the environment. Comments from anyone that has had to start over and how you dealt with it would be welcome.